losing a pet

What to Say When a Friend Loses a Pet

Bolt, Yorkie-Poo guest columnist:

It is with a heavy heart that I compose this entry.  Bo was such an incredible cat, a real joy, a source of inspiration to all.  He will be missed greatly, but we will maintain his spirit and presence continually throughout this blog.  Jessie is rather choked up right now, and rightfully so.  As such, I wanted to digress from the theme of the month to focus on what you can do when a friend loses a pet.  How should you appropriately respond?

Most of us have probably known someone who has experienced the loss of someone very close to them.  It is often an awkward and difficult situation and can be very challenging to know what to say and what to do.  It can be just as difficult for someone to lose a pet, as those are often some of the very closest bonds we have in life.  Here are a few suggestions for helping a friend cope with the loss of a beloved pet:

**Offer your sincere condolences and ask if there is anything you can do, just as you would if a human had died.

**Bring over dinner or a special treat.  Getting back into the routine of things after the loss of a pet can be difficult.  Simple gestures such as a meal and even a hug can help tremendously.

**Be a supportive listener.  Ask to see photos of your friend’s pet.  Let your friend talk through her grief and remain supportive and understanding.  For many people, a pet is a true member of the family, and losing a pet leaves a big void, just as the loss of a human life would.  Never say things like, “It was time for him to go,” or “Now you can get a new dog/cat.”  Be sympathetic.

**Send a card to let your friend know you are thinking of her.

**Share a special memory you have of her pet.

**Allow your friend time to grieve.  Do not even mention the thought of getting another pet for at least six months.  As with any loss, the grieving process must take place.

Bo…you will be missed, but you will never, ever be forgotten!  We love ya, man!

(Thanks to associatedcontent.com for this valuable insight.)

Celebrate World Animal Remembrance Month with Us!

Bo and Jessie, resident cat and dog on the blog:  We both know that animals have a significant impact on the humans who love them and care for them….and we love you guys just as much!

With September being heralded as World Animal Remembrance Month, we just wanted to dedicate this month to all of the loving animals in this world who have not only found a home in which to live, but who, more importantly, found a home in the hearts of those people who loved them dearly.

If you or someone you know has lost a beloved pet, now is the time to remember those pets fondly and with appreciation.  To start the celebration of your late pet’s life, you can do a few simple things to remember him or her this month:

1.) Take out some pictures of the animals who have passed that you have loved and who gave you so much unconditional love in return.  Share these with others. Put one on your desk at work or on the wall at home.

2.) Share your memories of the special times you enjoyed with your pet.

3.) Talk about how your pet impacted your life, even if it all boils down to the simple fact that each day when you came home from work, no matter how nasty your boss was or how horrible the traffic was, your pet was there with a wagging tail and a wet kiss, just for you!

Ask yourself what lessons your pet taught you:  Did you learn about loyalty and responsibility?  Did you learn about unconditional love?

Jessie:  Did you learn how to clean up regurgitated cat fur balls off the carpet?

Bo:  Shsh!  This is a serious subject matter today.  In the next post, we can begin to mock you!

In short, begin this month with a dedication to the pets you have loved and lost, but also to the pets who live with you now.

Happy Labor Day weekend!

Thanks to ehow.com for the information for this incredible post! :)

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